I just read an article on Refinery29 about women captioning us-ies of them and their boyfriends, with open letters to all of HIS ex-girlfriends titled: "To The Girls Who Let Him Go". Apparently, this is spreading on Facebook and IG and when it was forwarded to me, I really couldn't believe what I was reading:

"Thank you so much. Thank you for walking out of his life or letting him walk out of yours. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to love him and do things that would make him happy, to really keep him. Thank you for hurting him. If not, he wouldn’t have learned what something as valuable as we have looks and feels like. I will do all the things you failed to do for him, like be there for him, prioritize him, not make him feel like he is just an option, Give him time and affection even when he is not asking for it. I will take care of the man you failed to appreciate. I will love the man you took for granted. I will do anything to keep him and make him stay. I will love him for all that he is, and will support him in anything that he wants to be. I will be the partner you failed to become for him. I will be the woman who will never make the same mistakes that you did. I will never let him go."

Are you kidding me?! Are you serious with this right now? WTF?!!

A) Girl....no

B) Why?

C) Stop and

D) FOH!

I WISH one of my exes had a girlfriend send or tag me on this sort of buffoonery. You already have him. I am living my life on this end of the world and you're coming for me? If you're so happy with him, go be happy! No one is stopping you from this but you took time out of your blissful relationship to express your gratitude to me or others like me for "failing" your man, so you could "succeed"?

Newsflash: You failed.

You failed all of us.

You failed the sisterhood, you failed yourself.

Listen, there is nothing wrong with supporting your man -- emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially if that's what you choose to do. Do your thing. However, why are you coming for other women who have nothing to do with your relationship anymore? You thank me for hurting him? What if your new boo was an abusive asshole to me? You don't know that because you only know what he's told you. Thank me for taking him for granted? Maybe I didn't like sharing him with you and I just let him go.

The end of this "letter" gets really cracked: I will do anything to keep him and make him stay.

Really? Anything? I'm all about expanding your horizons and doing things with and for your partner but in this context, this seems like a slippery slope: from, sure I'll try something a little kinkier to now you see that he's watching kiddie porn and likes to cut you. But remember you said, you would do anything to keep him. This is what he likes. This is what it takes to be with him. But you're down right? You'll be the one scouring the net for the next video for him right? You're down for it all! If you know me, you know I take things to next levels, I'm extra and I know it but so are these chicks right now.

Also, you can never make a man stay. EVER. You can't make anyone stay, but you're right boo. You have the keys to success, ga' head.

You will "never let him go"? -- sounds like you have abandonment issues and you're in the running to be "America's Next Stalking Girlfriend". I/WE let him go and we're better for it. We are shining on and living and you're over there telling us about what we did to help you? You know what? You're right, that's what women who are for other women do, we help one another and all I can say is you're so very welcome because what didn't work for me, is working for you.

I didn't want a Three Thrust Larry. I didn't want the man who was jealous when I made more money than him. I didn't want the man who didn't have a passport because he didn't see the importance of seeing the world. I didn't want the guy who wasn't at my level. I didn't want the guy who showed me that when times got tough, he got going. I did away with my toxicity and now he's your treasure, enjoy him; while you're doing that, I'll enjoy me.

Now, I know there are some women out here who ride hard for their guy. How dare anyone hurt my soulmate? I get it. I do. You want to defend him to the world. But these letters are not the way. Why pit yourself against women who have nothing to do with your life now? Why?

But most important, you're right, don't make the same mistakes I made, don't rid yourself of dead weight. Don't value your identity to being more than someone's Partner.

Don't be like me.

Don't accept that the past teaches us lessons and we can learn from those and do better.

Don't understand YOUR WANTS AND YOUR NEEDS; yourself.

Don't be your best ally.

Continue to be THAT girl, the girl who likes the drama, the girl who wants nothing more than to prove that she is better than other girls. Don't you worry, because the girls that you are thanking in that letter are the same girls that will tell you: "I know, that's why I stopped messing with him", when you want to come over and cry over wine.

We'll accept you back at the table, we'll forgive. But you will have to thank us then as well.