The Squares have been super chatty and I love it. I'm getting so much feedback and I appreciate it all. One thing I've noticed is: Questions! You're an inquisitive bunch. I'll take some and answer them because maybe someone else is going through the same thing as well!
Hit the "Square Up" button and send in your questions. Don't worry I'll keep it anonymous unless you specify you want that to change and it's a no judgement zone! :) Also, the Facebook page is up so you can message me there as well and I'll answer as soon as I can. Let's see what's in the mailbag:
Hey Squared, I've had a crush on one of my co-workers for a while now and he's just told me that he feels the same way. I know they say you don't shit where you eat but I think I want to at least go out with him and see where it goes. So, I guess my question is, would you sleep with a coworker? What tips do you have for getting through the awkwardness?
Thank you,
"Working OVER time"
Hey Girl Hey,
Firstly, thank you for taking the time to write me. I really appreciate it and will try my best to answer you thoughtfully. Secondly, I know you're just going to do what ever it is you want to do :) and that's OK. That's how it should be! So, I'm just here as a sounding board.
Hmmm, maybe we can get a quick "coffee"
Crushes are awesome! You get all jittery and excited; you get hot flashes and sweat your hair out...maybe that's just me. Anyway, it's really nice when your crush is reciprocated, but I myself am a bit meh on office romances; not everyone can handle them. You're together all day and will inevitably be together in the evening...that's a lot of time together. I mean, I would want to miss my man a bit :)
However, if you're going to go for it, please be discreet. I don't think you have to necessarily keep it a secret but don't start making out at the copy machine or use pet names. You're still at work, so keep it professional.
Don't get me wrong, I think it's doable. I've seen couples handle it marvelously.
I've got your coffee right here girl....
Furthermore, offices can breed a lot of high school antics. Rumors tend to ferment in these close quarters, so I think you have to go into this with a thick skin. Gossip will start because you know....it just always does. Are you OK with that? Are you OK with the side-eyes? With people knowing your business? (even if it's not the correct version of the story). You also have to think about the fact that crushes fizzle out. How are you going to handle it when he's not that into you anymore, or more importantly, when YOU don't want to continue this tryst? There needs to bit of diplomacy when it comes to matters of the heart at work. Things can get very sour, very quickly. I personally like my job so I wouldn't jeopardize my income for something that may be a fleeting flirty fling.
If you do decide to work overtime with your boo, there shouldn't be any awkwardness after. First time jitters aside, if it's weird the next day, it's not meant to be. If you like each other, the next day should be even nicer! then, you would discuss what's cool or not at work, what you are both comfortable with? If you can't have that talk, then don't do it. It's not worth the stress that's coming down the line.
Let me know what happens!!
xoSquared