There’s been a little bit of a trend that I’ve noticed among some men. Not all, some. Texting is the main form of communication. Whole paragraphs are exchanged. I know, we’ve all seen the memes where there’s a paragraph on a phone screen and it’s something like: “I wonder what he did.” or “ When she needs to talk”. I've chuckled at those, because I've seen people on the train having whole arguments on phones, and when the paragraphs come in you know it's serious! I do understand that women tend to use more words than men (it's science) but we are NOT going to get to know each other via text. If that’s the case, you are nothing more than a pen pal to me. There is no romantic intention in this exchange. It gets cringeworthy for me when I’m texted lines like “I’m honest. I know how to treat a lady.” If that were true, we would be speaking on the phone. Also, those are traits for me to decide as the lady in question.
Don’t get me wrong, flirtatious texts are always nice and very welcomed. But the heavy lifting should be done with words in real time, with one’s voice box.
When I notice that a text exchange is going down the road of “first date via text” I lose interest immediately because I know this guy is not for me. I like conversation, I like asking questions with inflections. Do you get my sarcasm? My sense of humor? That can’t be conveyed via text.
Below are some example of the buffoonery I’m talking about:
Don't even get me started on the lack of punctuation marks. Oh! I love the last bit...he's been married....twice! So he knows how to do it. WTF? Sir?! NO! That's not how it works. But do you see what I mean? You're not gonna list all these qualities like a resume. This is a conversation that is meant to be had in person and you should let me decide if you are all the things you say you are.
Also...THIS is NOT good look:
This is so creepy. Exponentially Creepy. Creepy to the Umpteenth degree!
You invite yourself over to my house during our first text exchange? No thanks. It's not going down like that.
This guy...someone different from above, thought he could use reverse psychology on me. It backfired. I hate when guys go on fishing expeditions for feelings. I don't have any so this is a wasted effort. BLOCK!
This person just annoyed me so much after the above exchange because I already told him this was going nowhere. Leave me alone!
PSA: TTI (Textually Transmitted Intimacy) is dangerous if you don't catch it soon. Talk to each other to see if actual Conversations work for you. You may experience hot flashes, sweaty palms, butterflies in your tummy, heart palpitations, dry mouth and a sense of euphoria. Talk to each other today to see if Conversations are right for you. TTI can be the detriment of a beautiful relationship. Take back your life, take action today. Conversations.