Not that one....harlot! Ok, well maybe that one a little later :P

Right now, I'm talking about the position of letting your blessings come through. I've come across some women lately, who don't think they can get that "thing", whatever it is :job, car, house, money, watch, shoes, etc. because it's not "in their cards"; Girl get new cards!

Coffee Talk is the best kind of talk. "Girl, sometimes you've got to save yourself first"

I have a friend who is looking for a new job. She is out there hitting the pavement and making herself known. She's great at her job and wherever she lands, I know she will slay. I offered to introduce her to a personal contact for a job I KNOW she could do. But she never took me up on the offer. I let it be because I believe you can't force people to embrace their blessings. I can't want something for you more than you do yourself. So I saw her recently, and we talked about the job search and she said: "hey a coworker of mine is also looking, do you mind hooking her up with your contact?" I said, I don't mind but I don't want to. It sounded a little harsh but there was no malice in it, just unadulterated truth. She said, "but...should I make the connection between you?" My response "I guess, if you want, but I'm not going to try. It may have sounded mean but at that moment, what I wanted to convey was:

This is YOUR connection. Why are you giving it away? You are in the position to win, why are you moving out of the way?

I realized that we ALL do this sometimes. We might think something is too good to be true so we make up all these scenarios where it just wouldn't work out so why even try? Why go out of our way to be disappointed? Listen, I get it. Failure isn't fun. Disappointment is dissatisfying. Rejection reeks. But you've got to do it, to move ahead. I've learned that what is mine, is mine. It's mine for the taking. Maybe I don't have the means to get it right now, but it's mine. I just have to keep making moves towards it. I will always try to help someone if I'm in the position to do so. However, I've stopped trying to share everything I have with everyone.

Sometimes, your blessing is just for you; and that's OK.

Ever notice how something may happen to a friend of yours, like they may get some sort of hook up or they do something and get a reward and you go and do the same exact thing and don't have the same result? That blessing wasn't for you. Plain and simple. That wasn't yours. I used to get bent out of shape if I would recommend someone for something and they wouldn't get it. Now? Now I understand that I can't always bring someone along.

Sometimes, there's only enough for me and that's Alright. You can't save the world, at times, all you can do is save yourself.

I'm not telling you not to care for others, but you can't give all of yourself because then there is none left over for you. However, I also have to think the same of others. If I see someone winning, I'm happy for them! Of course the thought of "What about me?" pops up, I don't even fight that thought anymore, it's bound to happen, so it'll pop up and i'll answer it with "what about you, girl. this isn't about nor for you. You don't factor, so shut up and be happy for this person. And I do just that.